From Mediocre to Greatness: My Journey of Trusting in Jesus

It’s crazy cause before realizing that Jesus already paid it all, I was in the mindset of settling for less than I deserved. I’m not sure how many people can relate, but the younger me was willing to settle with mediocre. 

I had a bunch of mediocre friends, boyfriends, and just situations. If I’m going, to be honest, I was delivering at a mediocre level myself. Certain friends were only my friends because they had good drugs. Certain boyfriends were only my boyfriends because they had good dick, and I was only in certain situations hoping for some kind of exchange but for what? A mediocre return? Cause nine times out of ten, that’s what we get. How many of us settled for a baby over marriage and ended up in a mediocre relationship and now have a mediocre baby daddy. Maybe I’m the only one. As a wiser woman, I realize there are consequences to having sex before marriage and having children out of wedlock. We’re praying for God to fix relationships that are unaligned with His word to make perfect children between two imperfect people better yet two unmarried people, but we want to raise perfect kids. We show up to our jobs with a mediocre attitude and expect to get a raise because we showed up with the same mediocre attitude for ten or more years. 

While what if I told you your life is uncomfortable because you settled for mediocrity. Your struggling in a relationship because one side or the other is delivering mediocre energy, love, and commitment. You are depressed because you continue to surround yourself with mediocre friends who don’t support your dreams, you struggle with anxiety because you put your belief in yourself on a mediocre level. What if I tell you today that Jesus didn’t die for you to settle for mediocre, He didn’t die so you could be stuck in depression, He didn’t die so that you could raise children without the support of your husband, he didn’t die for your to be stuck in places of anxiety. 

So why do we get stuck in these places both mentally and physically because we choose not to be obedient. God says I prepared a place for you and I will supply all your needs. Why does God want us to save ourselves until marriage which I wish that I did but it’s the emotions tied to sex that most of us aren’t ready for. Seriously why else would women want to commit to raising a child without marriage? The most challenging job on the planet is to be a single parent; why do this unless you have a good income outside support and I can understand pushing it in age. But even with all those things, I believe you still need Jesus cause parenting is hard. Let’s keep it real; what works for someone else, you can only pray that technique works for you. For those of you who don’t know, raising kids isn’t easy, they all come out different with their own set of needs and problems that we then combined with our own needs and problems. 

I believe God tells us to wait until marriage before having sex because He does have the perfect person planned for our life and when we try to make it work with individuals outside his will things get complicated especially for the people God wants to use. I believe some people are unhappy at their job because God wants to use them somewhere else, and I always believe that somewhere else is your dream job, the desire which is on your heart day in and day out. God died so you could live your dreams and give Him the praise so others will draw nearer to Him. So why settle for less, why settle for just good dick, or just a house, or material things that bring you instant gratification, but as soon as the gratification is gone, you’re back in your hole of depression, or anxiety, or hopelessness, because you decided somewhere along the line to settle for less.

My dear friends, let me share with you a little more of my own story. I remember being in a relationship with a guy, who had good looks, good abs, and we had great sex. But you know what? He was the worst listener I had ever met. He never paid attention to me and my needs. He was a classic example of settling for less. And let me tell you, it was a miserable experience. Towards the end I believed at one point that having his child would somehow strengthen our relationship, and quickly became a single parent instead of his wife. To all my young Queens if he has no plans on merrying you, you shouldn’t be trying to have his baby. A lesson I choice to believe way to late in life, however God still rescued me.  I now have a child who doesn’t have a relationship with the man who brought him into this world because we both entered the relationship on a mediocre level. Unfortunately we’ve become very comfort with the idea of settle for mediocrity. Let’s be honest like myself there are  plenty of man and women out there willing to have kids before marriage, if I can save one or two people from long term heartache DON’T DO IT. God’s got you, don’t settle in the moment. 

But it's not just relationships, we settle for less in all areas of our lives. I’ve had several jobs that I hated, but I settled for them because they paid the bills. I was so unhappy and felt unfulfilled, but I didn't have the courage to pursue my passion. I was settling for less.

But when I realized that Jesus had already paid it all, I knew I didn't have to settle for anything less than what He had planned for me. The last time I work for someone else was in 2013, that was the year I started my own business, doing what I love. And let me tell you, it's been a wild ride, but I'm so much happier and fulfilled now.

So my dear friends, don't settle for less. Don't settle for mediocre relationships, jobs, or anything else in your life. Trust in Jesus, and trust in His plan for your life. And don't be afraid to take a leap of faith, just like I did. Because when you do, you'll find that the reward is so much greater.

Let's not settle for less, let's strive for greatness, and let's live the life that God has intended for us. May God bless you all. Amen.